Cancer Revisited, Finding Peace in the "No's" of Our Lives

I asked God to grant me patience. God said No.
Patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn't granted, it is earned.

I asked God to give me happiness. God said No.
I give you blessings. Happiness is up to you.

I asked God to spare me pain. God said No. Suffering draws you apart
from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow. God said No. You must grow on your own,
but I will prune you to make you fruitful.

I asked for all things that I might enjoy life God said No. I will give you life
so that you may enjoy all things.

I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as He loves me. God said...
Ahhhh, finally you have the idea.

Stop telling God how big your storm is. Instead tell your storm how big your God is.
Author Unknown

The above piece spoke to me in such a way that I related it to a very personal experience. I wanted to share the following story with anyone who is interested. Maybe we can learn to view our lives with a little more humility, hope and courage to meet the challenges we may encounter, be that broken relationships, death or difficult decisions we struggle with daily.

When my granddaughter was diagnosed with lymphoblastic cancer at 5 years of age, our family, church fellowship and friends went into an automatic prayer routine. She endured chemotherapy treatments and the constant high-powered drugs and their awful effects. She rallied and went into remission. There were almost 4 years of relief, but it returned. The chemo, the nausea, the loss of hair, a daily regimen of medicine and treatments, even radiation, resumed. All the while she managed to be her sweet, joyful, upbeat little self. She played like other children except mostly alone, until the danger of germs from other children was at a manageable condition.

She was home-schooled but allowed to have one friend in her "class" occasionally, just so she would not feel completely shut away from her social life. Another rally and renewed hope. Some semblance of normalcy had returned for almost a year and one half. This relentless intruder has reared its ugly head one more time. It appears to have metastasized. The latest tests show her blood counts in dire straits. The doctors, have had to resort to blood transfusions and say the only alternative they have to offer is that same sickening routine and no guarantees of extended life.

Her parents have courageously chosen not to put her through that again. They want the life she has left to be as quality as possible even though it may be short. Michelle will be 11 in the spring, if she makes it. If one did not know she has cancer they would not suspect a thing as long as she has her wig on. She acts like a normal child doing the normal things children do. She spends a good part of her day making gifts for friends and family with her large arts and crafts collection. She has a collection of Fairies and supposedly has "fairy friends." I suspect she's had visions of angels, who surrounded her. She giggles with her playmates and expects she will be a mother someday, like the rest of her friends. She has a "boyfriend," lots of girlfriends and is loved by all who meet her.

The Love in this little girl is the example God has tried to teach mankind, since the beginning of time. There is a kindness, hope, trust, plans, and sweet oblivion to the possible reality. In her short life she has been a friend, a teacher, a consoler, a daughter, a sister, a granddaughter and an example of courage that could put some of us adults to shame. She has endured with patience, created her own happiness and suffered pain many will not know. Her spirit has grown and she has learned to enjoy life in spite of all of the "No's" thrown her way. God knows her storm has been big, but not because she has complained. Like Jesus, at His time of departure from this life, she only knows LOVE.

I don't know about you, but I am ashamed to complain about my little "No's" in life, all because of the example of a loveable, little girl with cancer who has found peace with the "No's" in her life.

Michelle passed away before she reached her 12th birthday. There is a large gaping hole in the lives of those who loved her. Some may think I am reaching with the following, but 2 years after her death, I was strolling through the commissary where I buy my groceries. In the corner of my eye I noticed a beautiful little girl about Michelle's age, as I remember her. The child was alone just staring at me, following me with her eyes. I looked at her and smiled. She smiled back, and then I didn't see her again.

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Patricia Hubbard has Facilitated a Support Group for Separated, Divorced and Widowed people for the past 13 years. She has also written a newsletter for a Singles Group in Virginia Beach, called "Singles Perspectives" and presently writes "Divorced and Widowed Connections."

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